You are not just the glue that holds everything together.
You are a whole, worthy, radiant woman — all on your own.
Yet too often, "me time" feels like a luxury… or worse, a guilty indulgence. The Self pillar of the Love My Life framework invites you to flip that narrative. Prioritizing your well-being isn’t selfish — it’s foundational. Because when you care for yourself, you’re able to love more deeply, give more freely, and show up as the fullest version of you.
This post is your permission slip to reconnect with your needs, your passions, and your peace.
Why the Self Pillar Matters
At Love My Life, we believe a joyful home begins with a centered heart. As women, especially wives and mothers, we’re often taught that our worth is tied to what we do for others. We’re praised for sacrificing, admired for multitasking, and expected to push through even when we’re running on empty.
But what if taking care of yourself was the most generous thing you could do?
When you give yourself time, energy, and compassion, you restore your emotional reserves. You bring clarity to your decision-making. You feel more grounded in your purpose. And — perhaps most importantly — you model to your family what it looks like to value yourself.
When you thrive, they thrive.
6 Ways to Show Up for Yourself Intentionally
This isn't about spa days (though we love those too!). It's about everyday rhythms of self-connection.
1. Reclaim Your Mornings
How you begin your day sets the tone. Even just 10 quiet minutes before everyone else wakes up can be sacred. Use that time to journal, stretch, pray, or sip your coffee in peace.
Try this affirmation: “This morning, I choose presence over pressure.”
2. Check in With Yourself Like You Do Others
You ask your kids how they're feeling. You ask your spouse what they need. Do you ask yourself?
- What do I need today?
- How is my body feeling?
- Where can I show myself kindness?
Put these questions at the top of your LML planner page and check in before the chaos starts.
3. Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
The Self Pillar isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you are.
Did you drink water instead of soda? Celebrate it.
Did you say no to something out of alignment? Celebrate it.
Did you pause for 5 minutes to breathe? Celebrate that too.
Small steps create sustainable change.
4. Create a Joy List
When life feels heavy, it’s easy to forget what fills your soul. Keep a list of simple joys in your planner:
- A walk in the sun
- A playlist that makes you dance
- Time with a friend
- A podcast that makes you feel seen
These aren’t "extras." They’re essentials.
5. Release the Guilt
Guilt is often the biggest barrier to self-care. But guilt is not an indicator of wrongdoing — it’s often just an indicator of programming.
You're allowed to:
- Take breaks
- Ask for help
- Invest in your passions
Your needs matter. Period.
6. Speak Kindly to Yourself
Imagine if you talked to a friend the way you talk to yourself. Would she feel encouraged or criticized?
Let your inner voice be soft, kind, and affirming. Start with these:
- "I am worthy of care."
- "I don’t need to earn rest."
- "I am enough, even when I’m not producing."
Write them in your planner. Say them out loud. Put them on sticky notes. You’re retraining your brain to believe the truth.
Your Planner Is a Self-Care Tool
We didn’t design the Love My Life Planner to be just another to-do list. It’s a sacred space to:
- Set intentions
- Track your growth
- Reconnect with your purpose
- Reflect on what really matters
In the Self Pillar section, you’ll find prompts, gratitude space, and room to breathe. Let it be your mirror and your anchor.
You don’t need to earn your place on your own priority list. You are allowed to take up space, set boundaries, and live in alignment.
This Week’s Self Challenge
Let’s build momentum together. Try these each day:
- Start your day with a 3-minute check-in.
- Write one kind thing about yourself.
- Do one thing just because it brings you joy.
- Say no to something you don’t have the capacity for.
- Rest — unapologetically.
Celebrate your wins. Share them in our community. Be proud of showing up for yourself.
Final Thoughts
When I created this planner, it wasn’t just to help you organize your week. It was to help you live on purpose — with love at the center.
Loving your life starts with loving yourself. Not just in theory, but in action. With softness. With grace. With consistency.
So let this be your reminder: you are not too much. You are not falling behind. You are doing sacred, beautiful work — including the work of becoming whole again.
You are worth it. Every minute. Every boundary. Every breath.
With love,
Jeneane
Founder, Love My Life
