Our kids are growing up in a world that moves fast and speaks loud. From school pressures to social media noise, it’s easy for their sense of self to get lost in the shuffle. But at home, we get to tell a different story. A quieter one. A more intentional one.
The Children Pillar of the Love My Life framework reminds us that parenting isn’t about being perfect — it’s about being present. It’s about creating a home where love is steady, where big feelings are safe, and where a child’s worth is never tied to their performance.
This post is your invitation to pause, soften, and remember: you don’t need all the answers. You just need to show up — consistently, and with love.
💛 What It Means to Raise Wholehearted Kids
Wholehearted children are:
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Confident in their worth
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Emotionally aware and supported
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Allowed to make mistakes without shame
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Seen for who they are, not just what they do
When we raise from connection, we raise kids who are secure enough to grow into themselves — even when the world gets loud.
5 Ways to Nurture Emotional Security at Home
1. Value Who They Are, Not What They Do
Instead of “What did you get done today?”
Ask: “What made you smile today?” or “How did you feel about that?”
When children know their worth isn’t tied to achievements, they learn to measure themselves by character, not accomplishment.
2. Let Feelings Be Felt
Don’t rush to quiet a meltdown or brush off a mood. Pause. Be curious.
Say:
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“That sounded frustrating. Tell me more.”
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“It’s okay to cry — I’m right here.”
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“Would you like a hug, or some space?”
Let your child feel what they feel without shame. You’re raising someone who will know how to feel safely in adulthood.
3. Welcome Mistakes as Part of Growth
Perfection isn’t the goal — growth is. Allow room for failure, and let your child see that mistakes are part of the learning process.
Say:
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“What did you learn from that?”
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“Trying again is a strength.”
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“Thank you for being honest.”
This creates an atmosphere where your child feels secure enough to try.
4. Be Fully Present (Even Briefly)
10 minutes of undivided attention goes further than an hour of distracted multitasking.
Put your phone down. Make eye contact. Let them lead the conversation or play. The message is: you matter to me.
5. Live What You Teach
Kids don’t just listen — they observe. Model self-respect, emotional honesty, and self-compassion.
If you want them to be gentle with themselves, let them hear how you talk to yourself. Your example becomes their baseline.
📒 How the Love My Life Planner Supports This Journey
Parenting with intention is easier when you have space to reflect, notice, and grow alongside your child. That’s where your planner becomes more than a schedule — it becomes a record of your love in action.
Use your LML Planner to:
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Write down parenting wins and lessons
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Track emotional rhythms or behavior shifts
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Record your child’s sweet sayings or progress
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Set values-based intentions for how you want to show up as a parent
It doesn’t need to be perfect. It just needs to be honest and real — just like your parenting.
🌿 This Week’s Gentle Parenting Challenge
Try one small act of connection each day:
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Tell your child, “You don’t have to earn my love — it’s already yours.”
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Pause and sit with them when they’re struggling. Just be there.
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Celebrate something about their effort, not just results.
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Share a story from your childhood — let them see your humanity.
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Leave a note somewhere that says, “You make this home better just by being you.”
✨ Final Thoughts from Jeneane
You’re not raising a task list — you’re raising a soul.
Every time you pause to listen, every time you speak with kindness, every time you choose grace instead of control — you’re shaping a legacy.
It’s not about having all the answers. It’s about being present in the becoming.
Yours and theirs.
You’re doing sacred work. And you are not alone.
With love,
Jeneane
Founder, Love My Life
